…arguing against what I said. “Well, actually…” he’ll say. And the result is that I don’t trust him. I don’t feel safe to be myself with him. I don’t feel truly and completely loved or even liked by him because he doesn’t know me, because despite his questions and pleas to know me, he often responds to my offerings in a very defensive and unaccepting way.
The biggest issue with men is accepting the idea women are people. Quite literally men think from their prospective as defined by society as men have dictated for ages. In society where women have just as important roles to play as men the identity of relationships must be redefined to hear partner views. Sex often is not required to continue family legacy, bond political alliances or secure family titles. Sex is an intimate action used for bonding two people closer together. The quicker a man figures out a woman’s input (and vice versa) is necessary the happier he will be.